Decisions

Over the past couple days, DH and I have managed to reach a decision.

We are going to do the home study for adoption. I've already started getting the required letters of reference and documents together and will call tomorrow to set up the
appointment time. I know the home study itself will take up to a month before it's completed. During that time, I'll try to work on deciding if we should use an agency or attorney. We plan on adopting an infant domestically but, beyond that, I'm not sure yet what avenue we'll use to proceed with things. I can only hope this process ends up actually resulting in our becoming parents and, preferably, sometime before I turn 40. It's hard to believe that anything will after getting disappointed for so many years by infertility treatment.

Today is 6dp5dt for my surrogate and she's testing negative on HPT's. I was actually annoyed to find that my clinic expected her to test at 8dp5dt, not give us the result, then have her test again at 10dp5dt. We have to pay for these tests out of pocket and they are $ 200 each. So, if it was negative at 8dp5dt, we'd essentially be doing another test for no reason. I told my Dr. that I'd rather just do the first test at 10dp5dt so it can be accepted as a conclusive negative and then not have them require an additional test. I know $ 200 is not much in the scheme of IVF, but it's enough to have 2 nice dinners out.....or fill my gas tank four times......or buy a couple pairs of shoes......or do plenty of other things which are all a heck of a lot better than getting a repeat negative beta result. I mean who has ever gotten a beta done at 8dp5dt, had a complete negative, and actually gone on to get a positive 2 days later? I am guessing no one.