Update

Thanks for the support and suggestions everyone. I really appreciate it. It made me feel less alone in all of this.

I did start writing a letter to the Attorney Grievance Committee. Meanwhile, the attorney had called us on Monday to tell us he was going to wire the funds to us on Tuesday. He called this morning to tell us he was at the bank sending the money. I checked my account online and the funds are showing up but the transaction has said "pending" all day so I'm not sure if it's a done deal or not.

I'm also a little uneasy about where he got the money from if he didn't have it last week, but am trying to convince myself that it was through legal means. Now, if these funds do clear, I'm not sure whether I should still send the letter to the Grievance Committee or not. I did read something online about banks actually being responsible to notify the Attorney Grievance Committee if a check drawn on an escrow account bounces and then they conduct an investigation of the accounts. I'm hoping that's the case. I also have to call the supervisor of the Medical Records Dept. at the hospital tomorrow as she was looking into one of the letters the attorney passed on to me that was supposed to be from them.

I went to get my hair colored today in the hopes of cheering myself up and getting a distraction from all of these headaches with the attorney. About 5 minutes into my appointment, my hairdresser informs me she's 3 months pregnant. The rest of my appointment was spent listening to her talking about how she really hadn't planned this and hadn't been sure she wanted children yet, how excited her family is, and numerous other details that I won't even go into because I don't want to make anyone reading this upset. The best part was when she told me that she wouldn't have wanted to have children when she was past 27 (she's 24 right now) because her mom is only 45 and she loves that her mom still looks great and they can do things together that they wouldn't be able to if her mother was older. At that point, I'm sitting there thinking about how I'll be like 64 when my child (make that "increasingly hypothetical child") is 24. If you can believe it, I had told her that we had been working on an adoption that fell through right before she gave me her good news and all of the information that followed. I don't think it was done with ill intent, but just complete cluelessness. It's amazing that this same sort of scenario also happened to me right after my miscarriage. I remember dragging myself in to get my hair colored and one of the clients sitting next to me was pregnant with triplets (no IVF, of course) and everyone was talking about how rare it was for triplets to occur without fertility treatment practically the entire time I was in there. This was two years ago and it obviously traumatized me because I still remember it so clearly. I've decided, at the very least, that whoever does my hair from now on will have to be male.